The Hoosier State

Today (June 25th, 2014) a Judge struck down the marriage ban in Indiana freeing hundreds of couples to marry whomever they choose, regardless of gender or sexual preferences!

This is a glorious day for all Hoosiers!

Congratulations, Indiana! Welcome to the 21st Century!

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The Other Woman: A Review

The other night I had the misfortune of being dragged to see a movie.



A few other reviews I read said it was "predictable" and "stale." But I think it goes further than that.

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A few things that pissed me off about this movie (there are SPOILERS):

• Toilet Humour. I've never been a fan. EVER. I think Toilet humour is the lowest form of humour out there. Its not classy, its not funny. Its stupid.
• Nicki Minaj was the ONLY black person in the WHOLE movie and she was a fucking secretary. Not only that, but I felt that she was portrayed as being a woman of "loose morals" because she and her current boyfriend/husband (its not mentioned if they are married) fell in love with each other when they were married to other people.
• Can we say "Body Shaming" and "Slut Shaming"? At one point Cameron Diaz's character (Carly) tells Leslie Mann's character (Kate) that "No man wants to see that" referring to Kate's not shaving her vagina. This is just one of several things that had me seething in my chair. YOU ARE UNDER NO OBLIGATION TO SHAVE ANYTHING FOR ANYONE BUT YOURSELF! And if HE doesn't want to see it, HE can hit the road. Not only that, but there was liberal usage of the words "slut" and "whore" when referring to the "other women."
• Carly, the other woman, is supposed to be the "smart" character in all this drama. She's a lawyer, obviously a successful one since she is practicing in New York City. So... How come she participates in felonious behaviours better suited for teenagers? FYI, altering someone's drink without their knowledge/consent is IN FACT a FELONY. As in, you could go to jail! Not to mention that putting an excessive amount of laxative in a drink can literally kill someone.
• Kate, the wife, is an idiot. She is portrayed as being weak-willed, scatter-brained, etc. It was ridiculously sad, because you could tell that she loved her husband and this was a shameful thing for some reason. Wanting to repair her marriage was a terrible choice, according to everyone else. I'm not saying that trying to fix it would've worked, but confronting him rather sabotaging him would've been better.
• Amber (played by Kate Upton, apparently), the other (other) woman, is just there for boobage. Legit, she is in this movie to be breasts. She barely talks. She is sex. And that's all she was. She was also not very intelligent. Which made me incredibly sad. It would've been awesome if she had been portrayed as an intelligent young woman, besides being a sexual object.
• Mark (played by Nikolaj Coster-Waldau), the "scumbag," isn't just an adulterer, but he is also a criminal! How fucking cliche can you get? I mean, really? He can't just be an adulterer, he's an altogether terrible human being too.
• The women in this movie are portrayed as vindictive bitches. Not to mention that Kate is portrayed as someone easily swayed by sex and an idiot. I know women can be vindictive. I mean, I'm a woman. I'm vindictive sometimes. But men can be JUST as vindictive. Its a HUMAN problem, not a gender problem.

The only thing that I appreciated about this movie:

At one point in the film, Carly wakes up in just a shirt. She notices that she is other wise naked and she immediately thinks that she has slept with Phil (played by Taylor Kinney), Kate's brother. Phil tells her that they didn't "hook up" and when she asks why not, he says he considers himself to be a "good guy." I appreciated this for two reasons:

1. Its the first time I have seen a movie take the stance that having sex with a highly inebriated woman is wrong.
2. Phil not only DID NOT sleep with Carly, he put his shirt on her so that she wouldn't be completely naked and then made sure she got to bed.

It didn't really "ruin" the moment, per say, but the only thing I found not endearing about this scene was when he said that he had to "wall up" his willpower by putting a bunch of pillows between them. It would've been better if he had left it at being a "good guy."

I am terribly sad that my friend, Kid, spent $20.50 on this movie (my ticket and his, since I said I didn't really want to see it in the first place). I think its the worst $10.25 he's spent on me. Ever.

This movie isn't even worth a "rating" in my opinion. I legitimately hated this film. One of the worst movies I've seen.

Do yourself a favour, don't see this film. Its not funny. Its not classy. Its terrible.

Choose this day whom you will serve.

The following is in response to someone saying that Music isn't that powerful, that Homosexuality is wrong and some misguided things about Suicide. Unfortunately, she removed the comments so I can't post them here. However, you get to read my reply anyway! (Also, I apologize for how NOT stream-lined this is. It was a stream of consciousness rant to my phone and I have copied it... Verbatim)

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That's why we still listen to Gregorian chants from the 1100's. That's why we still have hymns from the 1700's.That's why we still listen to Beethoven and Bach and Mozart. You can't say that music has NO lasting power when, in fact, its been proven, over several centuries, to, in fact, have lasting power. The other thing is, even if, a person does not have a physical hand in a suicide, they have a hand in a suicide. There are always reasons and its not always a cry for help and its not always for attention. And its not always for selfish reasons. Some times its selfish; a good portion of the time its selfish, but some times its not.

And your articles are just, you went and looked for something to support your opinion. Not any actual, real leg-work, as far as finding things to support it. Just... things that coincide with what you believe. Which, I mean, most people do and that's fine, but you shouldn't do that.

Also, if we're going to get into the biblical side of things here: we have to go with either the New testament or the whole bible. Now, if we're going with the new testament, we have to admit that Jesus never said anything about homosexuality, abortions or sex outside of marriage. The biggest commandment that Jesus gave to us was "Love thy neighbor as thyself" and "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." And we, as Christians, seem to have forgotten how to "do unto others." Especially as we want them to do unto us.

You have to ask yourself the question: "Would I want somebody to come in and tell me that my marriage isn't valid just because they disagree with how I live MY life?"

No.

"Would I want somebody to come in and tell me that I can't have a life-saving abortion because they disagree with it?"

No.

The truth of the matter is that there are a lot of Christians who have had abortions because they're "life-saving." And then we argue about that some more too.

The point is that you either have to go with the whole book or the new testament. And if we're going with the new testament you have to admit that Jesus never said anything about homosexuality. Nothing. Not one verse.

Jesus devoted absolutely no time to sexuality. Paul, on the other hand, devoted lots of time to it. And, I would like to point out that, Paul is not the best example of humanity, just throwing it out there.

If we're going to go with the whole bible, then we have to look at the point of fact that we wear clothes that are of mixed texture, eat we shellfish, we eat pork, we touch pork skins when we play football, we gossip about celebrities. Because it is gossip. We're talking about them out of turn. We don't even know them. We're gossiping.

Its just... And we have to say that we're women but we don't actually leave our family home when we start our periods. We don't, you know... and if you tell me that those laws are out dated; those laws are the same laws that you find along with homosexuality. You can't say that homosexuality is NOT outdated, but everything else is. That's not the way it works.

So. Either you have to follow the whole book or you have to, or you can cherry pick. Which, I mean, is what a lot of Christians do. Which is really sad. So, if we're going to cherry pick, the whole bible, we're going to pick verses like homosexuality is wrong.

We're not going to cherry pick the verses that say that children who speak out of turn to their parents should be stoned to death. Or anything like that. You know, because that would just be silly! That law's outdated; you know, "thou shalt not murder." Okay, but God said to...

You can't really reconcile the God of the Old Testament and the God of the New Testament, because Jesus was a fun loving hippie. You know, peace, love and... you know, apple juice. Not really apple juice, but peace, love and wine.

God was all "destroy everything!" That's, that's where I get a little bit sketchy about Christianity, its because I, personally, cannot look at the bible and say "God and Jesus are the same being." Can't do it. Because God of the bible says that he is a "jealous God." But jealousy is listed as being an incredibly evil and wicked thing.

If God is jealous that means he's sinning, but God can't sin because God is... God. Okay...

So then we look at Jesus, who is the perfect example of someone who loves everyone, regardless. God, on the other hand, not so much.

God's like "Kill this," "Kill that."

"What's that? You defeated this army? Kill their children!" That's in the Bible. Go look it up. I can point out verses.

Its just like... Then we get onto the topic of sex.

Again, we can go to the bible and sex, sex, sex. Everywhere. We're sexual beings. We were created to be sexual beings. So, when you look at the bible you've got: people going out and raping, you've got people going out and having sex with prostitutes who turn out to be their daughter-in-law.

You know, you go into this, I mean... The bible is chock full of sex. But its not "bad." Okay, so how is it any different than what's going on now-a-days? Its, its not. People don't really change. Sex is a big thing and will always be a big thing. And the only people trying to suppress it are the church. I don't feel like God wanted us to suppress sex, but that's just me. Especially since he "created" us for it. Its just like...

You also have to think about the fact that, you know, Adam and Eve were probably having sex in the garden and God was watching. There's that. And, technically speaking, they weren't married. Just want to throw that out there. If you want to get really technical, they weren't married.

They were the only two people alive, but they weren't married because, according to a lot of people now-a-days, marriage involves having a certificate. You can't be "married" otherwise. So, Adam and Eve didn't have a certificate of marriage, so they weren't married.

"Joining as one flesh," yeah, that's sex. Just FYI.

Lackadaisical

I'm sorry that I've been rather lackadaisical with my posting of late. Things have been a little bit crazy on my end.

I'll skip my usual Easter/Zombie Jesus Day rant and tell you all that I am feeling like today is a new beginning, in the most Pagan of ways.

Fertility is all around us, the awakening of the earth to a new life, the everlasting cycle of Birth, Life, Death. I have to admit that I love this time of year because it just goes to show how cyclical our lives truly are.

All for now, Happy Spring to you all.